Parenting is the process of helping children develop into adults. Parent play a critical role in physical, social, emotional and intellectual development of their children. Psychologist asserts that parental care begins at infancy and proceeds all the way to adulthood. Through parenting, children can acquire and develop traits, which will later define how they relate to other members of the society, the environment around them and how they will behave. In many cases, the responsibility to provide childcare is given to biological parents of a child. Under rare conditions are children raised up by guardians, siblings, friends and other members of the society. Common causes that lead to a child being provided parental care by other people apart from their biological parents can be death of both parents, abandonment, and health complications. Parenting has a long time effect on the lives of children. It is therefore essential that parents or those involved in providing care to children do it well to ensure children develop better habits later in life. Some habits children acquire while growing up cannot be changed once they are adults. Issues of bad parenting have been on the rise in many civilizations. Effect of inadequate parenting can have both short-term and long-term impact on children. This paper explores long-term effects associated with bad parenting.
There exist various parenting styles. Each style is associated with both short term and long-term effects on children. Common parenting styles in existence today are authoritative parenting, permissive parenting, permissive and authoritarian parenting. Each method has its long-term impact on children. Authoritative parenting entails parents or guardians giving in to specific demands of children while monitoring their sense of responsibility and giving direction where needed (Ayoub, Bartlett, Chazan-Cohen, & Raikes, 2015). Authoritative parents rely on positive reinforcement and in many occasions do not punish their children. The give and take interaction created between a child, and the parent can lead to dangerous behavior later on in life. Permissive parenting is where children are given absolute freedom to decide what to do based on their reasoning (Hay, Meldrum, Widdoson, & Piquero, 2017). Permissive parenting is associated with very little or no rules which can have devastating effects on the future development of children. Uninvolved parenting is where parents do not take part in the emotional, physical or mental development of their children. There is no communication between a child and the parents leading to negligence of the child’s demands that later affects their behaviors (Vachon, Krueger, Rogosch, & Cicchetti, 2015). Authoritarian parenting is where parents are incredibly rigid and do not allow their children make any decisions for themselves. It reduced children to subjects while limiting their mental development. Each of the parenting styles above has its adverse effect on growth and development of children. The long-term implications related to them are discussed below.
Bad parenting makes children be at a higher risk of developing psychological disorders (Assini-Meytin & Green, 2015). Children raised in abusive conditions can easily develop diseases that affect how they reason or relate with other members of the society. Abusive parents make children develop complications of all types. Both physical and emotional abuses make a child suffers and will later affect how they relate to friends or how they will care and provide for their families. Parent will not take part in pushing their children to go past self-imposed limitations later in life. Children will be required at one point in life to move out of their comfort zone and seek ways to thrive. Continuous punitive criticism from parents affects how children develop mentally. Children internalize whatever situation they go through which later affect their mental development (Yap, et al., 2016). Poor parenting makes children not developmentally through their childhood. Failure to progress mentally makes children not able to handle life issues are required. Many people report cases, which relate to abuses they were subjected to while growing up.
Many people have trust issues due to poor parenting. It is the role of parent to encourage their children to believe in their abilities. Parents are required to ensure children do not feel those are around them can cause harm any time. When growing up children trust their parent to provide security (Assini-Meytin & Green, 2015). It is also the role of parent to encourage children that every human being are equal and do not have ill motives against them. Parents are also responsible for teaching their children to trust particular people. When growing up parents do not allow children to interact with everyone equally. Neglected children cannot believe anyone to be mindful of their well-being. Even after growing up, they will find it hard to believe their friends and even spouses. The feeling of being neglected by the parent will have affected their ability to trust those around them. Children raised up in dysfunctional families are also prone to trust issues (Hay, Meldrum, Widdoson, & Piquero, 2017). The thinking that all people are potential harmful can be helpful in helping the victim avoid people with ill intentions but goes beyond to affect how the victims choose friends and relate to them. In many occasions, affected persons will not freely associate with their friends and will always protect their assent from the public to an extent they become self-centered.
Poor parenting is responsible for making people feel guilt even when not involved in crimes (Ayoub, Bartlett, Chazan-Cohen, & Raikes, 2015). It is the role of parent to provide for their children without telling them how they struggle to make ends meet. Parents must focus on their children wellbeing the same way they mind their personal affairs. Poor parenting reminds children many times than required, which makes the children feel they are the source of pain or struggle in their parents live. The children grow up trying to figure how better their parents could be better off in their absence. In the process, such individuals will be suspicious of themselves even when not involved in illegal activity (Yap, et al., 2016). The issues can escalate limit how one will interact with other people in life for fear that their presence can cause problems even when that is not the case. Most people in the process will be antisocial and live secluded lives.
Aggressive and difficulties related to handling anger behaviors results from poor parenting (Vachon, Krueger, Rogosch, & Cicchetti, 2015). Parents should adopt correctional methods that do not affect physical well-being of their children. It is not proper for parents to resort to using excessive force when dealing with bad behavior in their children. Such approaches make children develop aggressive practices later in life. The children will be aggressive even on issues they can solve without turning physical. The level of aggression children witness at home from their parents is the same amount of aggression the children will apply when dealing with strangers. Parents should learn to manage their anger. They should not let their children see then when unable to control their anger. Children learn a lot from their parents (Puffer, et al., 2015). When parents become angry for flimsy reasons and justify their inability to control their anger, make their children view the failure to manage violence as something reasonable that should be tolerated. Adults who were raised up with parents who could not control their rage might develop similar habits and will apply the same at their places of work and homes. The result may be inability to control when upset and in many cases; such individual will find it hard to suit in the society due to their inability to control their actions when agitated
Children sometimes have the wildest thoughts (Puffer, et al., 2015). Despite their abilities, they always dream of making it in life and becoming essential people in the society. It is the role of parents to motivate their children and direct them on how they can achieve their ambition. Some parents limit creativity of their children of discouraging by reminding them of their weaknesses constantly. Parents should not be pessimistic about abilities or attempt their children are making. Poor parenting discourages children from putting effort to achieve and convinces them they cannot make it no matter how hard they try. People whose dream were discouraged or opposed at a tender age will grow up believing they cannot attain certain goals due to inherent limitations (Assini-Meytin & Green, 2015). The parents may also have suppressed the children talents by ridiculing their attempts when young. Later in life, such individuals lack creativity and will not put extra effort in achieving their goals. Their belief and self-esteem to make it in life will have been affected making them contended with attaining which do not match their ability. Such people are easily demoralized and will find it hard adapting to a competitive society.
Alcohol and drug abuse are becoming more prevalent in the society. Young adults are more affected than any other age group (Ayoub, Bartlett, Chazan-Cohen, & Raikes, 2015). Poor parenting does not give children an opportunity to learn or question the existence of somethings in the society. Very strict parent fails to engage emotionally with their children in the process encouraging them to explore things like alcohol and drug by themselves. Studies indicate the poor parental care for children at the age of ten increases their desire to take alcohol or abuse drugs later in life (Yap, et al., 2016). Parents should respond to children questions about drugs. If children do not ask parents about effect drugs and alcohol, it upon parents to teach children effect of such substances. Similarly, parents who use drugs and interact with their children while drunk influence their children to believe it is not wrong to abuse drugs, or take alcohol. Parent must try not to appear before their children while under the influence of drug or alcohol. Many children will attempt to use drugs as their parents are doing from a young age hence becoming addicts.
Children should be allowed some level of independence. Parents should not be overprotective to their children as it prevents them from being independent later in life (Ayoub, Bartlett, Chazan-Cohen, & Raikes, 2015). It is the responsibility of the parent to protect their children, but they should not overdo it. Poor parenting does not give children an opportunity to make individual and informed decisions. Such parents enforce strict and lengthy procedures making children not develop confidence in themselves. Children will not, test their sense of responsivity, and will forever rely on parents or other people to make decisions for them (Hay, Meldrum, Widdoson, & Piquero, 2017). Many children who grow lacking autonomy to make individual choices will find it hard later in life determining what to do. Moreover, such children will be care and develop blame game mentality even in their career lives. Irresponsible behavior in adulthood is associated with lack of independence while growing up.
Low self-esteem is a psychological problem that develops in people over time (Vachon, Krueger, Rogosch, & Cicchetti, 2015). One`s feeling of self-worth determine how far one can go in life. Many children have been unable to take part in communal affairs due to low self-esteem. In school, some children cannot interact with others due to the feeling on they are not of the same social class with their peers (Hay, Meldrum, Widdoson, & Piquero, 2017). Parents should give their children enough time when growing up to make them feel appreciated and essential members of the society. Poor parenting does not have time for children making them feel unwanted or not fit to be members of the community. Parents should not often compare their children ability to those of other. They need to appreciate difference is children and encourage them. Condemning children in public lowers their self-esteem. Such children will find it hard to relate with other or interact with people in society.
From the above discussion, it is evident that bad parenting has many effects on children. Poor parenting affects the ability of children to grow into responsible adults. Many children have had their self-esteem affected due to a constant scolding from parents. Some children have been able to attain their life dreams as parents suppress their curiosity while growing up making them abandon their goals. Unruly behaviors such as being over aggressive and indulging in drugs have been attributed to poor parenting. Many psychological disorders in adults can be traced to their children. Therefore, the parent should embrace better parenting methods to prevent their children from above effects.
Modernity and increased access to technology have affected how parents relate to their children. Many children are now spending more time on electronic devices than they are spending with their parents. The internet has also revolutionized many aspects of the society. Children are getting more information from the web than from their parents. There is need to carry out studies to evaluate the effect of technology on children. Currently, many parents are buying their children electronic toys without knowing impacts of such devices on their children. Future studies can access how parenting has been affected with the advancement in technology and provide recommendations on how a parent can relate to their children to prevent from becoming addicted to the internet.